Updated: Mar 8, 2019
It's the season of Love. Tomorrow is Valentine's Day a people everywhere are ready to show their love and appreciation for their partners with flowers, candy and gifts galore.
There are songs in every genre that talks about falling in love and being in love. There are also many songs about broken hearts, unrequited love, and many other love pains.
Even with the heartache and pain, it appears that everyone wants to have love. But do people truly understand what love is or how to love? There are so many broken men and women out there that want to love and want to be loved but don't know how because at the end of the day, they don't properly love themselves.
In society, women are often portrayed as the weak, broken hearted, needy individuals in relationship. You watch a movie or television show and see women searching for love. You listen to songs are hear women crooning for their love to be returned. How many romance novels are targeted towards women searching for fairy tale love. All of this is a lie. Men are just as broken and in need as women.
Men and women alike may have insecurities that cause them to jump from one relationship to the next, have a main, a side and back up for the side partner, stay in relationship for the kids, or out of fear and obligation. They are essentially pretending to love another person; all the while never truly loving anyone not even themselves.
The Bible states that love is patient and kind (1 Corinthians 13:4), in the Torah the great commandment is to love you neighbor as you love yourself (Viyikra 19:18) and Koran teaches that love is like a garment (Quran 2:187). No matter which faith you follow each talks of selfless and pure love.
On this Valentine's Day, I challenge those that are in need of love to first love themselves.