Movies to Make You Remember
If you haven't heard, Amazon Studios has partnered with Michael B. Jordan's production company, Outlier Society to bring us a summer of free cinematic fun.
Last week, I went to the drive-in to see the classic film Love and Basketball. I can't believe it has been 20 years since it's release in 2000. Time flies when you are growing old. Time really changes your perspective on things.
I was 15 years old when Love and Basketball was released. I guess my teenage mind decided to do as the title suggested and focus on the love story between Quincy and Monica. Watching it now as woman, as a mother, and as a daughter with hindsight, the story of how their relationship progressed was secondary.
The film really did a great job on showcasing black women and the array of personalities we possess. Too often movies show us as one dimensional. We are over sexualized and portrayed as angry. Besides Monica Wright, we were able to see her sister as well as she and Quincy's mothers.
The relationship between Monica and her mother touched me the most. The conversation they had towards the end of the movie about Camille giving up her dream as caterer to take care of her family shows how perspective is everything. What Monica saw as weak, Camille explained was her choice and her strength. Years of them not talking about their issues or differences led to so much time lost. Communication truly is key.
That scene made me think about my relationship with my own mother. I'm a very direct in your face type of girl and Momma Belvedere is not. I have never viewed my mother as a weak woman but I do think we have very different approaches to life. Now that I am the mother to a teenage daughter, I have even more of an appreciation of her approach to life although it may differ from my own. The three of us have our own distinct personalities but carry part of each other in ourselves.
The beauty of being a black woman is that we come in more flavors than Baskin-Robbins has to offer. We are multifaceted in our appearance, our interest, our personalities etc. We are strong and while we are often marginalized by mainstream media, strength has more than one face.
Being strong doesn't mean we don't want to be cared for. Although we are powerful, it does not mean that we are Superwoman. We feel pain both mentally and physically. Being strong is knowing when to ask for help. The same way Monica asked for her mother's help and advice when she did. Being strong is knowing that although we may bend and not break it is okay to fold. 2020 has personally taught me that there is strength in vulnerability.
Thank you Michael B. Jordan for the that reminder. You picked this as a "movie to make you fall in love" but this one actually made me proud.
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